CA VIKRAM SHANKAR MATHUR
Rosy years are here
They say that when a man grows older, he becomes sadder and wiser. I personally do not know much about the sadder part, but yes, wiser one does become as the years go by. When one is as young as 24-25 years old, what really does one know about oneself? There is so much of confusion and so many people who constantly add to your confusion with a plethora of ideas that keep conflicting with your interests. How can you be happy when there are so many things going on in your mind at that age.
For a boy it is not so bad, but when you put yourself in the place of a girl who is 24-25 years old, one begins to understand that this world can indeed be a very confusing and perplexing place to be in. While on one hand, your heart tells you to lose yourself in finding that one person with whom you want to share the rest of your life with. But the real question is the one that is the really tough one. How do you know that the person whom you think about really exists? How to tell whether the guy who is being extra sweet on you, who holds open the door to let you pass, making you feel like a princess, who whispers sweet nothings into your ear to make you feel all warm deep inside, who apparently agrees with almost everything that you have to say, simply because he likes to make you feel that he worships the very ground that you are walking on and so on and so forth; is really the guy whom you would like to spend the rest of your life with?
Everyone knows that the love that you feel in the initial and maybe the middle phase of your courtship with that special person in your life is really nothing more than the physical need that any adult female would feel for any adult male, which in other words could be coarsely re-defined as nothing but lust for the opposite sex. I mean, you are being extra sweet to that special person, simply because you want to create the best possible scenario which you feel he or she would enjoy the most. Even if you are lucky enough to find him or her worthy enough to get married to, how long does that phase really last? In my opinion, it is the first 5-6 years of married life that any husband and wife really enjoy, and those who manage to carry on enjoying sexual bliss even after the birth of their first child are even more lucky.
I have come across couples who are blissfully happy even after many years of marriage, at least they are to the naked eye, which cannot see beyond the facade that is sometimes being cast to hide the more sinister behind-the-scenes happenings that our society aids so well. That is really a rare phenomenon and it really can exist, provided both partners are mature enough to realize that a truly successful marriage is one in which there are no rules about who has to compromise, how much and when. I have even seen cases where the man or the woman has to do all the sacrificing and the compromising which alone is the single most important factor for the survival of that marriage, but that is extremely rare.
Thanks for reading so patiently,
CA Vikram Shankar Mathur
31-Oct-2017 | 23:59 Hours IST
